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                                                               Karmic Personality Development

                                                              Om Namah Shivaay

This book has become possible with the Grace of Lord Shiva and every valuable word in this book is only due to his Blessings. This Book is dedicated to the advancement and development of the good in people. The primary aim of this book is to make our lives as well as those of others, better and better by improving ourselves continuously.

                                                           Om Namah Shivaay

                                                           Special Thanks

After bowing to my Lord Shiva, let me take this moment to thank the person who has been an influence so strong and supportive in my life that she is second only to my Lord himself. She is none other than my respected and adorable mother, Smt. Jeewan Lata. So much can be said about her contribution to my life and her support in making me what I am today, that a whole book can be written about it! But, I will consider her like my Lord himself and hence move onto the next person, after bowing to her, as even an ocean of words can’t describe her real contribution in my life and for this book.

Second on the list of acknowledgments is my dear and respected father Lt. Sh. Bodh Raj Shangari. Though he left us when I was only nine, the mere fact that he along with my mother brought me to this world, makes me indebted to him for this life as well as for many lives to come. God Bless your soul father, wherever you are! Even though you are physically not with me anymore, you have always been present in my mind, through all the sweet memories of my childhood and you will always be.

Let me now take this opportunity to thank my dearest friend, Sh. Yusuf Kirmani, as without his effort, influence and support, this book would not have been possible at all! Making this book a reality was a priority for him, even more than it was for me and hence he is to be credited for this book, more than I should be. I am very lucky to have a true friend like you, dear brother, and I can’t thank you enough for your time, effort and support, and hence, I won’t even try!

To be Continued

Himanshu Shangari

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On the other hand, some of these people once again due to their past life karmas as well as their present life karmas and efforts; don’t get due chances or opportunities to put this energy to a constructive use. As a result, the unused amount of energy keep increasing with time and when this energy is unable to be contained anymore, it comes out in the form of bursts of anger, just like a volcano pours out tons and tons of lava which has been building inside it for a long time and which is unable to be contained now, by this volcano. Hence this problem of excessive anger comes from having more physical or mental energy than an average person and then not finding proper ways to channelize this excessive energy.

The problem of excessive anger is further divided into two categories and these classifications depend on whether you are suffering from excessive physical energy or from excessive mental energy. Even though the resultant is excessive anger in both the cases, but the expression of this anger is different depending on whether such anger has been caused by excessive physical energy or by excessive mental energy. If you are confused how these different energies should be identified, let me help you with this and tell you how to identify these two different types of energies.

Pay attention to this fact that the people getting angry due to excessive physical energy often express their anger in the form of physical activities like fighting with other people, throwing things around, hitting other people or things or even hitting themselves whereas the people getting angry due to excessive mental energy often express their anger in the form of too many arguments, heated arguments, verbal fights, emotional dramas and all other such type of violent or aggressive activities which exist on mental plane and which don’t contain physical violence, in most cases.

Hence in order to treat this problem effectively, you will need to learn ways to channelize this energy in proper direction and at the same time you will need to limit your engagement in certain specific types of activities which may increase this problem as such activities are likely to bring more energy to your body or they can act as a catalyst and provoke your energy to come out in the form of anger.

To be Continued

Himanshu Shangari

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After you have won your battle with the problem of making excuses, let’s now move on to the next battle front where one more potential enemy is waiting to be conquered by us. This enemy is the one who can take control of our mind for a short duration of time and then make us say and do the worst type of things which we may regret later on and which can cause so much damage to us and sometimes this damage can be an irreversible in nature. Yes, we are talking about the problem of too much anger. The habit of having too much anger is a problem which can spoil even the best of the things achieved by you and which at times, can make others ignore even the best qualities in you and leave you.

Hence if you have this problem of excessive anger, you will need to get rid of it in order to make yourself a better person and in order to achieve more and more good things in your life and most importantly, in order to retain whatever good things or good people you have already achieved in your life because the worst type of damage done by anger is that it can snatch even the most valuable and the dearest people or achievements from you.

It should be noted that a certain amount of anger or aggression is a must needed quality if we want to achieve big things in our life and without anger or aggression; nothing great or even big can be achieved in most cases. Hence anger or aggression is not a bad thing in itself but not knowing how to channelize such anger or aggression, is the problem. Even the problem of getting too angry is not the one which will stop you from achieving big or very things in your life, though it has a strong tendency to take those things and especially people, away from you. For this reason, learning to control your anger becomes very important as you won’t want to let go of the things or people in which you have invested so much of your effort, time and care. In order to treat this problem of excessive anger, let’s try to find the root cause of this problem and then start dealing with it from that root itself.

Not all people are born equal in terms of their physical and mental composition and accordingly there are some people who in comparison to an average person, are gifted with much more physical or mental energy, whether this energy is positive or negative. As the amount of energy running through their body or mind is much more than an average person, it is easy to understand that these people need more and more ways to find an exit for this energy or find more and more jobs to utilize this energy. By virtue of their past life karmas as well as by virtue of their present life karmas and efforts, some of these people find proper directions to channelize this energy and these are the people who are seen achieving big or very big things in various spheres of life as they have much more energy to perform and accordingly they have better chances of achieving more and more.

To be Continued

Himanshu Shangari

 

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As a result, the next job or a job which comes a few jobs after the first job is once again not completed in a timely or proper manner and once again you use your best weapon which you have discovered recently and which is the weapon of making excuses when you should have acted responsible to start with or you should have cleanly admitted your fault and apologized. As you expected or wished, this weapon strikes the target and once again you are saved from saying sorry and this is where you start believing in this weapon more and more and accordingly you start sending more and more messages to your subconscious mind with each one of such excuses, where such messages say that, making excuses is much better than being responsible since it is easier between the two and at the same time, it makes you feel smarter as you are now able to fool more and more people, or so to say this is what you think.

But in reality, just like the first time, the other person has only bought your excuses not because you have fooled him but because he trusts you and hence he does not doubt your words. This is once again due to the fact that even at this point, you still have a clean image or reputation and people don’t think that you are an irresponsible or undependable person. But as your trick worked once again, it gives you more and more reasons to put less effort in your work and more efforts in making such wonderful excuses which give you a great feeling of being smarter than many other people on this earth and so you start doing it more often. Accordingly, your conscious mind starts sending more and more messages to your subconscious mind that you are willing to make excuses rather than acting responsible and with these repeated and frequent messages, your subconscious mind registers a new script which says that, making excuses is much better than being responsible and taking all the pain to do a job in a proper or timely manner.

As a result, your subconscious mind keeps on giving you more and more reasons not to complete any job given to you, in a proper or timely manner and as this continues, you start making more and more excuses to the people who gave you different jobs from time and time and finally a time comes when you project an image of being irresponsible, undependable and untrustworthy. At this point, most of the people around you, start believing that you are not a trustworthy person and accordingly they start avoiding you. Even though you become aware of this new and negative image of yours, but it is very late to change yourself back to a responsible or trustworthy person now, as your subconscious mind considers you as a person who is irresponsible and who is good at making excuses. Accordingly, your subconscious mind will put much resistance when you start to change yourself back to what you originally were because you first wanted your subconscious mind to believe that you are an irresponsible person who is good at making excuse and even though it took you a long time to make your subconscious mind believe you but it finally believed you.

Hence your subconscious mind started supporting you in a way you wanted, by giving you more and more reasons to not complete your jobs in timely or proper manner and then by suggesting you better and better looking excuses to save your grace and to fool other people. This is what you asked your subconscious mind to do for you and even though it took your subconscious mind a lot of time to start working according to your wish, but it finally started working according to the script given by you and by the time you realize that you have given a wrong script to your subconscious mind and you want to change it, it is very late if not too late as your subconscious mind is now comfortable executing the old script and it does not want to change the script now, at least not easily. Hence it puts great resistance when you want to change it. This is why it is said that, be careful what you wish for, you just might get it.

As we continue with this topic, we will look at some simple but effective remedies which can help you get rid of this problem.

To be Continued

Himanshu Shangari

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One more negative habit which can cause problems for you in various spheres of your life is the habit of making too many excuses or giving too many justifications when you should have spent all the time wasted in these activities, in doing correctly what you were supposed to do. It is a common trait among many people that they will not do what is required of them in a proper or timely manner and sometimes they do not do it at all and when they are asked for an explanation why did they not do their job properly or timely, instead of admitting their mistake, they will start making excuses and giving justifications as to why could not they complete their job in a proper or timely manner. Even though many of such people making such excuses think that they have convinced the other person with their perfect looking excuses and justifications but in reality, such excuses look perfect to them only and from the point of view of the other person, such excuse and justifications only add fuel to the fire.

Yes, I know that almost all of us can sometimes face a situation when due to certain unavoidable circumstances beyond our control, we are not able to complete our job in a proper or timely manner and it is fine if it stays only till here. But if you have developed a habit of not doing your job in a proper or timely manner most of the time and then make excuses, it does become a serious concern as slowly but surely, you will start losing your credibility and more and more people will avoid giving you important tasks or jobs, or any jobs to start with since you are a person who they can’t depend on and most of the people in this world including you and me, would not want to give an important job to someone who is not dependable.

Hence it is a big problem and if you have this habit you should start doing the things needed in order to get rid of this negative habit and in order to do so, we will first look at the root cause of this habit as we always do and then we will work towards the activities which can help you get rid of this problem. This problems starts from some point back in the time, when you could not do something in a proper and timely manner and instead of admitting your mistake, you decided to make an excuse or give a justification. As you made this excuse, it was accepted by the other person and accordingly your mistake or irresponsibility was ignored and this very fact gave you a negative type of motivation which said that if you are smart enough to save yourself from apologizing in front of various people, then why apologize and why not make such wonderful excuses more and more.

Kindly also consider this fact at the same time that since you have made such an excuse for the very first time, this is the primary reason that the other person has not doubted your sincerity and he has accepted your excuses as a genuine problem that you may have faced while doing his job because at this point, you have not developed a reputation of being a person who does not do his job in a proper and timely manner and then makes excuses. So the other person trusts you and he thinks that you may have faced a genuine problem due to which you could not complete his job on time or in proper manner and this whole practice has actually nothing to do with your smartness in making excuses as you think. But as you start thinking that you are smart enough to make such excuses which can save you from saying sorry or from apologizing, you tend to put less effort and less concentration on your next job as you already know by now that even if the job is not completed in a proper or timely manner, there is something special about you which will save you from all the trouble.

To be Continued

Himanshu Shangari