Too many Excuses and Justifications 02

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As a result, the next job or a job which comes a few jobs after the first job is once again not completed in a timely or proper manner and once again you use your best weapon which you have discovered recently and which is the weapon of making excuses when you should have acted responsible to start with or you should have cleanly admitted your fault and apologized. As you expected or wished, this weapon strikes the target and once again you are saved from saying sorry and this is where you start believing in this weapon more and more and accordingly you start sending more and more messages to your subconscious mind with each one of such excuses, where such messages say that, making excuses is much better than being responsible since it is easier between the two and at the same time, it makes you feel smarter as you are now able to fool more and more people, or so to say this is what you think.

But in reality, just like the first time, the other person has only bought your excuses not because you have fooled him but because he trusts you and hence he does not doubt your words. This is once again due to the fact that even at this point, you still have a clean image or reputation and people don’t think that you are an irresponsible or undependable person. But as your trick worked once again, it gives you more and more reasons to put less effort in your work and more efforts in making such wonderful excuses which give you a great feeling of being smarter than many other people on this earth and so you start doing it more often. Accordingly, your conscious mind starts sending more and more messages to your subconscious mind that you are willing to make excuses rather than acting responsible and with these repeated and frequent messages, your subconscious mind registers a new script which says that, making excuses is much better than being responsible and taking all the pain to do a job in a proper or timely manner.

As a result, your subconscious mind keeps on giving you more and more reasons not to complete any job given to you, in a proper or timely manner and as this continues, you start making more and more excuses to the people who gave you different jobs from time and time and finally a time comes when you project an image of being irresponsible, undependable and untrustworthy. At this point, most of the people around you, start believing that you are not a trustworthy person and accordingly they start avoiding you. Even though you become aware of this new and negative image of yours, but it is very late to change yourself back to a responsible or trustworthy person now, as your subconscious mind considers you as a person who is irresponsible and who is good at making excuses. Accordingly, your subconscious mind will put much resistance when you start to change yourself back to what you originally were because you first wanted your subconscious mind to believe that you are an irresponsible person who is good at making excuse and even though it took you a long time to make your subconscious mind believe you but it finally believed you.

Hence your subconscious mind started supporting you in a way you wanted, by giving you more and more reasons to not complete your jobs in timely or proper manner and then by suggesting you better and better looking excuses to save your grace and to fool other people. This is what you asked your subconscious mind to do for you and even though it took your subconscious mind a lot of time to start working according to your wish, but it finally started working according to the script given by you and by the time you realize that you have given a wrong script to your subconscious mind and you want to change it, it is very late if not too late as your subconscious mind is now comfortable executing the old script and it does not want to change the script now, at least not easily. Hence it puts great resistance when you want to change it. This is why it is said that, be careful what you wish for, you just might get it.

As we continue with this topic, we will look at some simple but effective remedies which can help you get rid of this problem.

To be Continued

Himanshu Shangari